Telling a child to “calm down” can often backfire, making things worse because it implies that what they are feeling doesn’t matter.🤯
One of my favorite calming techniques to teach children is, “Smell the Flower, Blow out the Candle.”
Children are not often aware of how their body is wired, so breathing exercises may be difficult for them to learn.
So, instead, we teach them what they already know! Have your child use their nose to take a big deep breath to inhale (as if they are smelling flowers)and blow it out to exhale (as if they are blowing out a candle)
Once the child is calmer, we can work with them on understanding their frustration and the next time they have such strong feelings, they can use this new tool to help!
Tell me-what strategies work best for you when your kids are frustrated?